So, as soon as we decided to have Jenni I was outnumbered, basically always, unless at special events where JD was available.
You know I’m now having my 4th, so I’ve been outnumbered for a while. The number one question I get is “How do you manage them and go places?”
I don’t know how other moms do it, but it’s real simple with me. Listening is a must. If someone isn’t listening, we leave, period. And to back that up, if the listening isn’t happening at home, they lose privileges then, that is, we don’t go to do their activities.
It doesn’t happen often, but it does happen.
Both Hazel and Jenni have lost a privilege this year, Hazel, we didn’t go, and Jenni’s I’m sure seems particularly mean, lost her chance to swim. Why is this particular situation worse, well Jenni swims immediately after Hazel, so she had waited through Hazel’s lesson and lost her privilege right at the end.
We can’t, I can’t, be everywhere at once and when the girls (Martin is too small) don’t listen, I can’t keep them safe. And although it’s minor issues right now, I still can’t pick 3, let alone 4, kids up and carry them out of wherever we are, so they have to listen or we can’t go out.
The girls are both very well behaved, and I think that’s because they have boundaries and know that the rules and what’s being said will happen. Doesn’t mean that I don’t feel bad after, I do, but it sets the expectation that consequences will followed through on.
Then I can go home and be sad while they find something else and completely move on!